A relationship usually starts out with enough sparks to start an inferno. But after a while, the flames settle down until you realize that the relationship is not working out as well as you expected it to be. When a relationship turns cold, it can be one of the most draining, most tiring moments in your life. This is how it is for most couples who don’t know how to manage their relationships, but it doesn’t have to be that way for you!
A relationship, like a garden, needs constant care, commitment and love to help it grow. The more care, commitment and love you invest into your relationship, the stronger, healthier and happier it will be.
So what some of the things you can do to deepen your partnership and keep your relationship strong?
Here are 3 ways to do it:
Learn to Give and Take
One of the ways that could fracture a relationship and build resentment is when you approach your partner with the attitude that things have to be done your way 100% of the time.
While it’s perfectly fine to be honest about your own wishes and needs, bear in mind that your partner deserves to be respected and heard as well. A harmonious relationship is built on compromise and plenty of give-and-take on both sides.
This is how you should give and take:
1. First, recognize what is most important to your partner and do your best to meet (Give) his/her wishes and needs.
2. Once that is achieved, learn to receive (Take) when your partner acknowledges and meets your wishes and needs.
3. Repeat the first 2 steps as often as you possibly can but make sure there is a reasonable exchange between you and your partner.
Never Take Out Your Problems on Your Partner
It is important to accept the fact that there will be challenges in every relationship. This is especially true if either party is struggling with an emotionally stressful issue, such as coming home from an unpleasant day at work or coping with the loss of a loved one in the family.
A stressful situation can make us short-tempered and it’s easy to vent our frustration on our partner. If this ever occurs, immediately take a step back and silently ask yourself the following 3 questions before you unleash an unnecessary barrage of hurtful remarks that could effectively ruin your relationship:
1. Is it fair for my partner to bear the brunt of my frustration and anger?
2. How would I feel if I were in my partner’s shoes?
3. Do my actions define who I truly am as a person?
Shower Your Partner with Quality Time – No Matter How Busy You May Be
As time goes by, it’s easy to grow apart from your partner and take him/her for granted. A demanding career, personal issues and other commitments are some of the distractions that make it hard for you to find time together. Often, relationships start to erode if you don’t spend time to connect with your partner and reaffirm your love for each other.
Here are some simple ways to help you find the quality time that you need to re-ignite the passion in your relationship:
– Explore new things to do together such as going on a short holiday or something as simple as enrolling in a Yoga course together.
– Or come up with a few thoughtful ideas to surprise your partner such as bringing a meaningful gift or a treating him/her to an extravagant meal at a nice restaurant.
Finally, it helps to remember that famous quote by noted psychiatrist Elisabeth Huber Ross who put it quite aptly, “It’s only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth – and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up – that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.”
Likewise, it’s only when you understand that you only have that much time to share with your partner that you will start to cherish your relationship to the fullest. Now that you have all the tips you need to create a passionate love relationship, it’s time for you to apply them and experience the love you truly deserve!
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