Let’s start off with this:
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” – Dr.Seuss
In this world, everyone has their own unique thoughts, opinions and expectations about everything – Which is their right.
However, rarely are the boundaries of expression limited to just matters that are directly connected to them. People tend to be interested in matters outside of their own life… Say for example, your actions and behaviours or life choices.
What others think and say about us, whether to you or otherwise, can be with good intentions where they are concerned about you (in this case, usually loved ones and close friends) or just with self-interest intentions (where they feel that they and their opinion matters regardless of their role in that given situation).
It is with influences like this that prompts many of us to hesitate and re-consider before we take any action, big or small, because we’re prone to think; “What will they think if I did this” … “What will they say about this”…etc.
And when our thoughts start down this path, it triggers more worries, anxiety and doubts that are unwarranted, unnecessary, and unhealthy.
With that said, here are 3 ways we can remind ourselves that it’s ok and more importance than what we think about ourselves instead of caring what other people think of us:
Be honest. Are you making choices about your career, relationships, and pastimes because you want them or because they’ll please or impress someone else?
It’s said that people would care a lot less about what others think about them if they knew how little others think about them. And it’s true: Everyone has enough to occupy their mind.
It can be terrifying to go against the grain, speak out, take a risk, or face disapproval. But decide what matters to you, trust yourself, and go for it. We don’t grow by always playing it safe; we grow by allowing ourselves a chance to fail.