Happy New Year, fellow learners! How was your 2017? Did you manage to achieve what you set out to do? Be it as a business owner or a regular employee, we constantly need to improve ourselves in order to keep up with the ever-rapid changes taking place around us. Unless we remain competitive, there’s no doubt that we’ll be left behind.
However, improving upon your skills isn’t the most important part of keeping up to date. In fact, it is only about 20% of the work. The best way to ensure that you are always on top of things is the ability to grasp your own thoughts and mindset. Understanding yourself so well that you know what makes you tick, and using that knowledge to help yourself be more effective.
This is a skill that Tony Robbins, the world’s number one peak performance coach, knows all too well. For years, he has been travelling the globe teaching people how to overcome their fear, how to take charge of their life.
And it’s not a lesson that is difficult or complicated. In fact, it’s just the opposite.
“Most people make things 10 times more complex than they are in order to sound smart and intelligent” Tony tells us, “My goal, is to make it so simple you can’t screw it up.” Five points are usually all he needs to explain his methodology. This is easily seen from his five steps of overcoming fear.
We all have wishes, but what does the life you desire and deserve look like? Is it something you’re working towards – something that is attainable and you’re willing to commit to? The first step in conquering fear is identifying whether your goal is a “must.” Identify if your outcome is a “must” and think deeply about why you want to achieve it. Once you feel that your goal is essential, that the fear of not trying at all eclipses the fear of failure — that’s when you’ll be motivated to act.
When you’re afraid, you’ll do anything to put off working toward your true purpose. You will start telling yourself excuses. You’re too tired. You don’t have enough time. Be honest with yourself and recognize when you are using excuses and figure out how to overcome them. Assess your priorities. Make the decision to not give yourself an excuse, because it will ultimately leave you unfulfilled.
Fear holds us back. It is a natural and integral part of survival. But the message you need to tell yourself is that it’s not about being perfect every step of the way. It’s about getting comfortable with what you don’t know and continuing anyway — this is the foundation of a growth mindset. As soon as you’ve accepted that the path to success includes growth and change, you’ll be one step closer to attaining your goals.
Everyone experiences hardships in life. It doesn’t matter if you have had personal or professional setbacks — what matters is the lesson you take from those experiences and how you apply it to your future. Instead of letting pain and fear dictate your decisions, actively choose to learn from those painful moments to be in control of your own life.
Failure can provide you with valuable learning experiences that will positively impact your future strategies. Everyone fails. Recognize that although our society doesn’t always talk about failure, every single person has encountered failure on their path to greatness. The quicker you realize your fear of failure is preventing you from making the decision to accomplish your dreams, the sooner you’ll be able to accept the possibility of failing and move on.