Our relationships are the foundation of our lives. As personal coach Tony Robbins says, “The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.” So why not strive for a relationship that is the definition of #relationshipgoals?
There is no relationship that has a bigger impact on our daily lives than the one we have with our romantic partner. That means when our intimate relationship is suffering, so are we.
So what can you do if you are having problems in your relationship? Or if you want to be proactive to prevent them in the future?
Tony Robbins has a few tips…
Too many of us think about our relationships in terms of what our partner gives us—but shifting that perspective to think about what you can give your partner instead can change everything in the relationship.
“A relationship is not a place you go to get,” Tony says, “it’s a place you go to give.”
There is, of course, a balance of give and take in any relationship. But by giving your partner the attention they crave, you will be helping them feel loved and respected—and that will inevitably result in them wanting to provide the same for you. Then the difficulties and big decisions you face together will only bring you closer together.
Relationships are all about understanding one another. Ask yourself, what is my partner dealing with right now? How do they see things? And if you don’t know, ask them.
Good communication is as much about listening as it is about sharing. Pay attention, and your partner will reciprocate.
By sharing thoughts and problems you will feel more connected to each other.
Being on the same level as your partner is important in a relationship. Does your partner have a different opinion than you? Respect their judgement, help them feel understood and taken seriously. It’s important that you and your partner treat each other with respect and consideration.
“When your partner makes his or her own decisions,” says Tony, “ you must openly and wholeheartedly respect their judgement and allow them the freedom to succeed or fail on their own.”
Trust is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. Without it, negative emotions and bad habits can start to take over—like jealousy, separation anxiety and the need for control. Then it’s just a matter of time before the relationship falls apart.
Trust is something that two people in a relationship choose to give each other—and it is something that has to be valued and appreciated.
As Tony says, “as long as you both communicate with each other, respect one another, and individually make trustworthy decisions, your relationship will grow stronger and flourish.”