Think about it—when we’re under stress, we often take it out on the people around us. We’re sensitive and short-tempered, saying things we don’t mean, and our ability to make good decisions is seriously impaired.
We tend to indulge in unhealthy habits, like eating processed foods, drinking alcohol, and smoking, which combine with poor sleep to exacerbate our bad behaviour.
All of this is bound to take its toll on the people around us.
Since there’s nothing that makes a stressful time worse than fighting with your family and friends, it’s important to learn techniques to help keep your stress from impacting your relationships.
Personal and performance coach Tony Robbins advises using his “90-second rule” to help minimise the negative impact of stress on your interactions with others.
This technique is all about reducing stress, anxiety and fear.
Whenever you start to feel stressed, pause to identify, process and dismiss unnecessary fear.
Give yourself 90 seconds to feel whatever emotions you need to—self-pity, suffering, fear—then move on.
“The quality of your life is the quality of where you live emotionally,” Tony says.
“In order to avoid stress breaking down your relationships, learn how to manage stress in a healthy, effective way.”
“Accept that life is happening for you instead of to you. Also, tell yourself that everyone has ups and downs, but a temporary setback shouldn’t create a major roadblock when it comes to the success of your relationships.”